Moral responsibility

Wisdom in Discretion – Knowing When to Show and When to Conceal

Asgar-Dhanji The writer, Asgar Jafferali Dhanji (Dar es Salaam, Tanzania) served as the Secretary-General of the Africa Federation for two 3-years terms.  He served as JIBA Vice Chairman, with a particular passion for raising funds and offering microfinance to our community, including low-income individuals, underprivileged startups, and small enterprises, thereby giving them opportunities to grow economically.  He is the founder of Imaan Finance Ltd – the First Islamic Finance Institution in Tanzania.  and has also served in Dar es Salaam Jamaat’s Arbitration Committee as well as a Board member of Ebrahim Haji Charitable Hospital – with a particular passion for the project of building the new hospital.  He is now a motivational/Inspirational speaker giving regular Saturday Fajr lectures at Dar Imambara.

Moral Responsibility

Wisdom is having good judgment across many different situations. A wise person sees a situation from many different perspectives and understands their own strengths, weaknesses and biases clearly instead of acting out of emotions- like anger or pride, or believing something just because they wish it was right. Though knowledge (ilm) may open doorways for wisdom (hikmah), wisdom is distinct from knowledge. Surely, knowledge and information provide a means of enlightenment to attain wisdom.


However, the saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom! Nevertheless, the curve of wisdom, because it is built over a period of time and toil, far outweighs everything!!

In Islam, wisdom is always linked to virtue.

“You shall not accept any information unless you verify it for yourself.” 

Allah (SWT)  has given you the capacity for hearingsight, and the intellect, and you are responsible for using them effectively. You shall not walk with arrogance on earth. All impropriety is condemned by our LordThe quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment is vital for being wise.

In our age, there is a strong urge to explain everything, post everything, respond to everything and reveal everything! But wise people have deeper understanding: not everything needs to be spelled out. Privacy and sincerity are not weaknesses – they are signs of maturity and depth.

Wisdom is not only knowing what is right – it is knowing what to reveal, what to conceal and what to delay. A person may know many truths, but blurting out every truth is not wisdom. Sometimes, truth needs timing. Sometimes, truth needs gentleness. Sometimes, truth needs a private space!

Just consider relationships: If every misunderstanding is exposed, trust erodes. But when correction is done quietly and respectfully, relationships grow stronger. That’s wisdom with discretion!!

Wisdom is not only about what we say. It is also about what we choose not to say. In a world of constant sharing – statuses, achievements, opinions or even private moments – the wise believer understands a powerful truth: Not everything valuable must be visible; Not everything true must be spoken. Discretion is not weakness; it can be a spiritual strength.

Wise people ask themselves before speaking: Is this necessary? Is this beneficial? Is this the right place or forum? Is this the right audience? – If the answer is “no”, – silence becomes wisdom. 

Remember:- privacy is not secrecy for wrongdoing – it is protection for sincerity. Just as a seed grows underground before it appears above the soil, many noble intentions grow when they are not exposed too early. There is dignity in restraint- when emotions are high, the unwise react instantly. The wise pause. That pause is the birthplace of discretion. In the ‘pause’, anger cools, ego softens and fairness returns. Sometimes the most powerful words are measured words. Sometimes the strongest action is controlled action. 

In conclusion, wisdom is not only in knowing – it is in choosing. Discretion is the gentle guard that stands at the door of wisdom. To have wisdom means to be able to best leverage all experiences, to act in the most effective way and at an appropriate time and place, for their own benefits and that of others.

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