A Simple Thought: Tuesday, 3rd January ’17

A simple thought from The Community on Friday: To wind up the festive season, a friend goes to an eatery, and is unfortunately, accommodated next to a family with kids. Not to be misunderstood, the friend likes children, but admittedly is allergic to uncontrolled pandemonium. And as he was just taking deep breaths while waiting for his ordered menu to materialise, amidst the relentless shouting of the kids, he saw that underneath where one of them sat, the floor was full of dispersed rice morsels. The whole scenario, utterly filthy, he saw the parents – two couples, busy chatting in loud tones, completely unhindered by the chaos. As my friend turned away, he saw another large family had just arrived, and their loud talking was particularly enveloping, as their style of ordering resembled the rough overtures of a slum tea room.
These examples are aplenty, where behaviour in social settings is going from bad to worse, and the generation that is now in adulthood, perhaps bunked etiquette classes during their time and in turn are clueless as to the guidance to offer their children. Savage dining mannerisms which simply spread filth and disease, are maybe as well practised at home. Lack of regard for others leads them to speak loudly wherever they go.
In 2013, Newsweek published this interesting piece “Why children need parents who provide guidance” – A strange notion fashionable in the 1990s held that parents—or at least parenting—didn’t really have much to do with the way kids wound up; genes determined just about everything. It was, to say the least, a controversial thesis based on selective research, but like most fads that allow people to sidestep responsibility, it gained an enthusiastic following. Today such genetic absolutism has gone the way of the dodo and the dotcom bubble, and parenting is once again understood—and this should come as no surprise—to be a key element determining the future success or failure of children. In a new study for the Brookings Center on Children and Families, Richard V. Reeves and Kimberly Howard sum up research showing just how advantageous it is for kids to grow up in homes where, for instance, they are exposed to thousands, rather than hundreds, of words a day. The children of strong parents who offer constant attention and guidance are much more likely to succeed in school and their careers. The authors argue that, given these findings, too much government policy is focused on finding ways to educate young children despite parental shortcomings, rather than educating parents to help them do a better job raising their kids.”
Look around you, parents who behave as if they are still teenagers, still not satiated with having fun in life, still having late friend nights, still finding every excuse to eat out and go here and there. With every day, losing time to provide guidance to their children, then expecting them to turn out much better than themselves. Talk of wishful thinking! To crown the crisis, here’s a question that yoi can answer in private: what possible effect on the minds of children can it have, when they find their parents publicly celebrating their anniversary on social media, using words and statements that define their private life? What kinds of Shi’as are we turning into when with we discard this amana given to us by Allah (SWT) called children, leaving them to learn from the big bad world outside our homes? A serious matter but one I suspect will compound with time.
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Mohamedarif is a marketing professional and educationalist with a penchant for writing as a hobby since childhood. As he experimented writing about sporting events at first and then current affairs, he quickly developed a skill for observation of his environment and began to write on reform topics, especially in connection with the community. To further feed his pursuit of writing, he founded several newsletters and bulletins at his school and at the Husayni Madrasah in the 1980's, all the time learning from others already in the field not just about writing, but also about pre-press and production processes. He was also the editor-in-chief of the Knowledge Magazine in 1995–1996. A decade later, importing a flurry of ideas into his new home, Nairobi, he first founded a two page community newspaper then became a regular writer of the Friday Faculty before establishing the Community on Friday, a fully fledged Madrasah magazine in 1996. And while his writing at the community continued, he simultaneously started writing for a business weekly, pairing in with his newfound role as a marketing professional. During his time in Nairobi, he wrote several speeches for sitting chairmen and presidents while also giving some himself, developing his concurrent role as a public speaker and trainer.

With changing times and a decrease in advertising sponsorship, as well as a fall in overall readership, Mohamedarif transformed this publication into an electronic blog. Thus was born the Community on Friday in its present format.

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