The writer, Asgar Jafferali Dhanji (Dar es Salaam, Tanzania) served as the Secretary-General of the Africa Federation for two – 3-years terms. He served as JIBA Vice Chairman – with a particular passion to raise funds and offer Micro Finance to our Community – for low-income, underprivileged, startups, Business loans, individuals, and small enterprises — thereby giving opportunities to grow economically. He is the founder of Imaan Finance Ltd — the First Islamic Finance Institution in Tanzania. and has also served in Dar es Salaam Jamaat’s Arbitration Committee as well as a Board member of Ebrahim Haji Charitable Hospital – with a particular passion for the project of building the new hospital. He is now a motivational/Inspirational speaker giving regular Saturday Fajr lectures at Dar Imambara.
s not our first question to others always “what do you do”. Or do we describe someone as a lawyer or accountant or doctor – as if the role is really who that person is?
Some of this is probably inevitable, but we can, if we so choose, begin to shift the way we see and label others, and in so doing, make our social life so much more pleasant.
When we see people as human beings first – their role second, – the people we are in contact with, sense our deeper perspective. In other words, they see us in a different light as well. They often treat us better, listen to us, and make allowances for us that others do not enjoy.
When we see beyond the roles people perform, we also have opened the door for much richer, nourishing, and more genuine social interactions.
People will like us and trust us. They often will go to great lengths to help us.
Each person you meet – be it at an airport, a restaurant, a hotel, in a taxi, at retail outlets – has feelings — sadness, joy, fears, and all the rest. Simply knowing this and keeping it in mind can transform our life in some simple yet powerful ways.
We can brighten other people’s days merely by smiling and making eye contact. Remember, the flight attendant is tired and can not wait to get home; the person pumping your gasoline has a family, insecurities, and problems of his own, the corporate executive probably argues with her husband and had plenty of problems unknown to the rest of us.
We are all in this together.
So let us treat everyone as human beings first and they will go out of their way to assist you.